Client Questions - 2025
Here you can find some short questions about clients and what they are working with and some essence suggestions to help.
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Emotional Difficulties & Presence… December 2025
Q: “I’m working with a client who finds it very difficult to feel fully present and grounded in his body. He once described the feeling of being in his body as being like a cat on a hot tin roof. It often feels as though only part of him is really “here,” while the rest of his energy drifts off into other spaces and fantasy worlds. It’s hard to get a clear sense of what he’s feeling emotionally, and he doesn’t seem to know how he feels himself. My inner sense is that there’s a lot going on beneath the surface that feels too overwhelming for him to fully face or process. I sense that this is deeply distressing for him, and it makes him jumpy, anxious, sometimes very afraid and a bit on the edge emotionally. And yet he seems almost unable to acknowledge it consciously. Instead, he appears to cope by staying ungrounded, disconnected, and not fully present in his body. He also seems to struggle with his relationship to his body and appearance, his self worth, and he feels very sensitive to the thoughts or perceived judgements of others, and carries a high level of nervousness and anxiety. Which of your essences do you feel would best support him at this time?”
A: It sounds as though your client is carrying some deeply uncomfortable emotions that he’s finding difficult to fully feel or come to terms with. I would suggest beginning with a bottle of Emotional Body Essence, followed by a bottle of Earth Star Essence. Together, these will support him in processing unacknowledged emotions and help him to feel more grounded and present in his body. The Emotional Body Essence will support him in working with his buried emotional patterns. When emotions are strong but not consciously acknowledged or processed, they can feel especially uncomfortable and overwhelming. This essence helps to clear unconscious emotions and the negative belief patterns that may be fuelling his emotional responses, and supports the gradual release of any difficulties around really feeling his emotions. The Earth Star Essence will help him to ground more fully back into his body and bring his focus and awareness into the present moment. It’s a wonderful essence for anchoring and stabilising, supporting him to feel more present, connected, and able to stay with his experience as emotions arise. Bach Flower Remedies: I would suggest supporting both of the above combinations with mix of the following Bach Flower Remedies: Agrimony, Clematis, Mimulus, Rock Rose, Walnut, Crab Apple, Cherry Plum and Pine.
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Difficulty Ending a Relationship… October 2025
Q: “One of my clients is struggling in her relationship and needs support to move forward. Although she still feels a deep affection for her partner, she has known for some time that the relationship isn’t progressing. She recognises that she needs to leave, and to move on with her life, yet finds it very difficult to let go and keeps getting drawn back into the emotional dramas between them. Part of the challenge is that she struggles to express how she truly feels, which leaves many things unsaid. As a result, she feels caught in limbo, unable to move on, but also unable to make the relationship better. Which of your deeper acting essences would best support her in finding clarity, emotional release, and the strength to move forward?”
A: The Letting Go and the Throat Chakra essences would be very supportive in helping her to move forward. The Letting Go Essence will support her in releasing the old emotional and energetic ties that make it difficult to move on from the relationship. This is a powerful essence for working with the emotional pain associated with separation and letting go. It encourages the creation of more balanced, loving relationships, free from neediness and old emotional cords. This Essence will help her to gently release past pain, grow stronger within herself, and find the inner stability to decide what is right for her. The Throat Chakra Essence will help her to express herself more openly and gain emotional clarity about how she really feels. As she begins to communicate more honestly, it will allow the release of long-held, bottled-up emotions. This process often brings a clearer perspective and helps clarify the path forward. By finding her voice, she will not only empower herself but also give her partner a clearer understanding of her true feelings and position within the relationship.
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Trouble With Sleeping… September 2025
Q: “I have a client who is struggling to get consistent, restful sleep. She usually manages to fall asleep, but often wakes during the night and finds it difficult to go back to sleep again. Sometimes she is disturbed by noises in the house; other times her mind becomes busy with thoughts from the day. Her job is quite stressful, and she finds it hard to fully switch off and relax. While she is generally positive and happy, the nights of broken sleep are leaving her feeling tense and on edge, which in turn makes it even harder for her to rest the following night. She is looking for something to help, so which essences do you think she would she find most helpful?”
A: There are two combination essences that would be especially supportive for her. The first is the Sleep Essence, which encourages greater ease and relaxation in the physical, emotional and mental bodies, and helps to nurture your sleep patterns and gently create a more natural rhythm & flow to your sleep. The second is the Inner Harmony Essence, which is particularly helpful for those who struggle to unwind, let go, and switch off. It's a really good choice if you have an eternally busy mind or you're a very activity orientated person who habitually overworks or finds it difficult to ‘switch off’, rest or relax properly. It helps to promote inner relaxation and peacefulness. You could support these two combinations with some Vervain and White Chestnut from the Bach Flower Remedies, both of which would help her to slow down and relax.
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We have two short questions for this Month... August 2025
Q: “One of my clients, a woman in her 70s, is navigating the recent loss of her husband. They shared a long life together, and though she was aware that his passing was near, the reality of his absence has struck her deeply. She’s in a state of shock, struggling to fully grasp and process the enormity of her loss. Which essences can I support her with?”
A: A bottle of the Healing Bereavement Essence would be the best place to start. It’s a really good essence for all types of bereavement, grief and loss and will help her to process these difficult feelings and to work with the shock she’s feeling. Over time it will help her to come to terms with her loss and to open her heart and renew her connection with herself and life. I would suggest supporting the Healing Bereavement with a bottle of Star of Bethlehem from the Bach Flower Remedies, this she could put in all of her drinks and will help to work with the shock she’s feeling.
Q: “I’m currently working with a client who is experiencing a significant amount of anger and frustration, at times quite intensely. I’m considering whether the Inner Peace Essence or the Solar Plexus Essence would be more appropriate in this case. Could you clarify the difference between the two, and advise on which might be better suited in this situation?”
A: A bottle of Inner Peace would probably be the best starting place. This combination is particularly focussed on working with anger in all of it’s forms, and is our go to essence in this respect. It will help your client to begin to release their anger and its underlying patterns so that they can feel more at ease within themselves. You might follow on with a bottle the Solar Plexus chakra essence if the anger is centred around feeling oversensitive or feelings of vulnerability, lack of self-worth, difficulties with personal boundaries or emotional neediness. A bottle of Holly – which is the Bach Flower Remedy for anger – would be a really supportive remedy to use alongside both of the above essences.
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A Client Working With Shame, Guilt & Abuse... July 2025
"My client is struggling with a deep sense of shame and guilt. She’s in her late-twenties and seems to have experienced some sort of childhood abuse which has left her struggling to feel comfortable or safe in her body. She is nervous, often fidgets and is clearly uncomfortable being in her body, especially around other people. She has a nervous sensitivity and feels that her body is not quite right in some way. She finds it very hard to talk about what happened and on the surface is almost stoic about it, and yet it feels like at some level whatever it was that she experienced broke something in her. It’s like she has shut the door on her emotions, herself and her body and she finds it very hard to trust other people. She clearly feels ashamed and angry about it, and yet there is also a sense of deep hopeless that I get from her, of separation from herself and others, and of just surviving and carrying on because there is nothing else to do in life. I sense just how difficult it has been for her to reach out from behind her protective barrier and ask for help. Which essences do you think would most help her?"
Deeper Acting Essences to Help: I would suggest that a bottle of Healing Abuse Essence would be a really good starting place. This essence is all about working with issues related to abuse, trauma & shock and it gently helps to release the related old buried emotions and associated belief patterns, allowing that old energy to clear and release. I would follow this up with a bottle of Purity of Heart and then a bottle of Innocence. The Purity of Heart Essence focuses the vibrations of purity and peace deep within the heart chakra, and will help her to release and transmute buried feelings of unworthiness, shame, fear or anger. The Innocence Essence is a really good essence for transforming feelings of guilt, shame and uncleanliness. These three essences should help her to begin to gently connect with a clear through the emotions, patterns and beliefs that she is working with.
Bach Flower Remedies to Help: the following Bach Flower Remedies would also be really helpful: Pine will help with her feelings of guilt and shame and Crab Apple is a good emotional cleanser and will help with an inner sense of purity and release any sense of bodily disgust or uncleanness. Star of Bethlehem will help and support her to work with the shock and trauma of abuse, and Mimulus will help her with her fears and nerves and any sensitivity to the harshness of life. Agrimony will help her to release her bottled up emotions and feel more free to be able to express herself and Gorse will help with the sense of hopeless that you were picking up on. She would probably also find Holly would help her with the anger that she feels and Water Violet would really help undo her sense of separation from herself and others and allow her to more easily come our from behind her protective barriers.
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A Client Who Feels Unable to Fulfill His Life Purpose.... February 2025
"I’ve got a bit stuck with a client who says that he wants to achieve things in his life, but always seems to sidestep the actual doing of them. It’s like he can’t seem to gather the will and sense of purpose to actually make them happen. He thinks a lot about what he wants to do and has lots of ideas going around in his head all of the time, but always seems to lose focus and not be able to ground and apply any of them in a practical way. His energy is quite unfocused and a bit scattered, and he often finds it difficult to assert himself and what he feels is right, and this seems to lead to him giving up and not bothering. I can see some fear in there, and some anger and frustration, and I think he may be too easily influenced by the people around him. What essences would help him out of this space and to get on with what he wants to do?"
Deeper Acting Essences to Help: a bottle of Inner Strength followed by a bottle of Hara Activation would be a great way to begin to shift and release some of the issues that he is working with. The Inner Strength Essence is all about helping to develop and promote the qualities of inner resolve, strength, courage & determination. The Hara activation is all about finding your divine will and purpose and is a really powerful essence to get you back in your body and aligned to your purpose and will. Both essences will help him to work with and release the underlying thoughts, feelings and emotions that are currently making it difficult for him.
Bach Flower Remedies to Help: I would suggest that the following Bach Flower Remedies would also be really helpful: Centaury would help develop the qualities of inner strength & self-determination and Hornbeam would help him to feel that he has the mental strength, clarity and determination to do what he needs to do. Clematis will help to keep him grounded in his body and focussed on life, and Wild Rose will help him to stop giving up and not bothering. Mimulus will help with the fear that you see he carries and Holly will help with the anger and frustration. He would probably also find White Chestnut helpful with calming the thoughts and ideas going he has going around in his head, and Walnut will help him when he feels too easily influenced by other peoples thoughts, energies and ideas.
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How Clients React to Essences.... January 2025
Q: “Many of my clients come to me for help with fear and anxiety and I use flower essences a lot to help and support them. However, I find that my clients often react very differently to the same essence. For example, one of my clients took Inner Calm and found it calming and empowering, while another client found it a very difficult, albeit transformative, essence to use. I’ve had similar responses to the Pink Rose karmic essence. I’m not sure why they had such different experiences and I’m wondering whether I chose the right essence in each case? I don’t tend to get this with remedies like Mimulus and Rock Rose.”
A: Clients will often have different reactions to essences depending on where they are at with their clearing process and how sensitive they are to the essences. An Essence like Inner Calm will work deeply to release old fears and worries, and it can be a powerful essence to use. If a client has a lot of fear that is very conscious for them and it is ready to be released, taking Inner Calm can often be the catalyst that will help it to quickly release. This can feel very liberating, calming and empowering. However, if your client has a lot of deeply held fear that they find painful and difficult to experience, then taking an Inner Calm can feel emotionally quite challenging as the old fear is cleared and released. In this situation Inner Calm is still the right choice of essence, it just means that the clearing process is more intense. Often this can also be incredibly liberating and helps to bring a deeply held old fear into consciousness to be released. This is the same for Pink Rose, which is also a really helpful essence for shifting old deeply held fear.
Bach Flower Remedies such as Mimulus and Rock Rose are less deep acting and work to balance how you are thinking and feeling in the moment. They are a really good complement to use alongside the Inner Calm, but they won’t work with the fear and worry at such a deep level. There are times when this might be an advantage, for example if your client needs to come back into greater balance before addressing the more deeply held fear.
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A Client Who Feels that Life is Deeply Unfair.... December 2024
“I’m treating a client who is suffering from a strong feeling that life is deeply unfair. He has a core belief that nothing goes his way, and that it not fair that certain people seem to have everything while he doesn’t. He’s passionate about what is wrong with the world and why things are so unbalanced and unfair and what we should all be doing to put it right. He can be very critical of the way things are, and sometimes of himself too. He has a good heart, but his sense of injustice and resentment can lead to him getting very upset when people don’t seem to appreciate him and what he is doing for them. Unfortunately, this leads to a tendency for him to become a bit controlling, bossy or on occasion quite manipulative. If he doesn’t get his own way, he can become overwhelmed and feels like he is losing control or is about to do something silly or dangerous. Some days he finds it hard to get out of bed, and life feels like a very dark place which is no longer worth living. He is quite self-aware about all of this and is obviously in some emotional pain. He is responding to treatment, but I’d like some essence suggestions to help him please.”
Bach Flower Remedies to Help: Starting with the Bach Flower Remedies, he would find Willow really helpful for his feelings of resentment and that life is unfair. Vervain would help to balance his sense of over-responsibility and over-enthusiasm to get everyone to fix the wrongs of the world. Holly would support him to work with his sense of anger and Beech with his critical or intolerant feelings towards others or himself. He would find Chicory very helpful for when he feels unappreciated and resorts to manipulation to get his own way. Vine would help to re-balance his need to control or coerce others into doing what he things is right for them to do. Cherry Plum is the remedy for feelings of losing control and doing something out of character and Sweet Chestnut for when things feel very dark, and you feel absolute and utter despair or hopelessness. I would suggest mixing these together as a combination to support him with how he’s feeling about himself and life.
Deeper Acting Essences to Help: I would suggest starting with a bottle of the Self Responsibility Essence. It sounds like that at the root of what he is working with are feelings of resentment and that life is unfair in some way. Many of the his other patterns would seem to be a reaction to this feeling. The Self Responsibility combination will help to release & transform conscious or unconscious feelings of resentment, encouraging a greater sense of forgiveness and self-responsibility in all areas of life. I would suggest using this combination alongside the Bach Remedies to help him to find a greater sense of inner balance in life.
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A Client with Fear & Self Worth Issues.... November 2024
“I have a client who is feeling very afraid and is struggling to value herself at all. She’s scared of not having enough and struggles to feel she is worthy of her job and what she earns. Sometimes she feels moments of acute terror at what might happen to her because of this. Mostly she’s experiencing a lot of fear and self-worth, but there are moments of real anger and she feels hopeless and despairing and has no faith that her problems in life will ever change. Because she struggles to feel okay about herself, she’s hiding all of this behind a mask of everything being ‘okay’. She is actually a very capable person but her feeling of not being good enough seems to undermine her and she generally lacks confidence in herself. Which Essences would most help her?”
Bach Flower Remedies to Help: Starting with the Bach Flower Remedies she would find: Pine would really help with the feelings of low self-worth and not valuing herself. Mimulus would help with the known fears of not having enough and Rock Rose would help with the acute terror. Gorse would help with the feeling of hopelessness and despair, while Gentian would help with the lack of faith that things will get better. Holly would help with the anger and frustration and Agrimony will help her to gently express herself and face her emotions. She would also find Larch helpful in supporting her self-confidence. These could be mixed together as a combination to support her with these issues.
Deeper Acting Essences to Help: it feels like her feelings of low self-worth and not feeling good enough are at the root of what she is working with, so she would probably find a Feeling Worthy Essence really good at helping her to shift those patterns. This combination will work more deeply than the Bach Remedies and help with the underlying causal patterns.
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